but they don’t have to be.
My work is dedicated to helping parents to climb out of these holes they may have dug with their children, to reestablish the foundations of trust, respect and cooperation, and to repair whatever might have been broken along the way. I want to help you feel confident in your role as the calm, steady, tuned-in leader of your child. To be able to trust your own instincts and those of your child. To slow down and really listen and really see who your child is and what they need from you to become the authentic, confident, independent, and kind person they want to be.
If you have ever felt like your child’s emotions confuse and overwhelm you; if you have ever felt like your frustrations with your child were driving a wedge into your relationship with them, you are not alone. These feelings are all too common among parents...
I worked with patients who had experienced pervasive childhood trauma, disrupted attachment, and limited exposure to healthy coping strategies. In order to get better, they needed to learn how to connect to their own experience in the moment, be able to name what was happening, calm their nervous systems, identify the appropriate coping strategy from the tool box I helped them to build, and use it effectively. When I became a parent, I began really studying the psychology of parenting.
I also found that these practices help to reduce the stress, pressure, doubt, and martyrdom that is so often experienced in today’s mainstream parenting approaches, which by extension helps to reduce psychological distress in parents as well, resulting in families that are healthier, calmer, and more aligned with one another.
It became clear to me that the work I had been doing with my adult patients was in many ways related to the kind of work I was doing with my son in order to help him to feel safe and secure in his relationships, to feel confident in his ability to move through his emotions--no matter how big or uncomfortable they might be, and to develop a solid sense of who he is as a person. It was this awareness that led to a pivotal shift in the focus of my clinical work.
I help my clients first and foremost by working with them wherever they are on their parenting journey--from preparing to become parents, to the postpartum period, and all the way through teen years. Wherever you find yourself today, I help you by identifying precisely what you and your family’s unique concerns are, how those concerns came to be, and what needs to change in order for you to find the balance and satisfaction you are seeking.
On your parenting journey and want to set the foundation for secure attachment, healthy emotional expression, and a collaborative, respectful relationship with your child. I can help you...
Identify your parenting values and use your authentic voice as a parent.
Be on the same page with your partner in parenting, to feel confident in your ability to navigate common parenting challenges
To identify and let go of remnants of your own childhood experiences of being parented that may not have worked for you (what I refer to as “ghosts in the nursery.")
With your child. Something isn’t working, or maybe it hasn’t been working for a while. Whether it is a behavioral issue, a relationship issue, or maybe it’s not really clear what is wrong but in your gut you feel like something is not aligned. You need reassurance, support, and guidance. I help families who are...
Struggling with communication
Struggling with effective discipline and limit setting
Whether that means you feel like you are banging your head against a wall because no matter what boundary you set, nothing works, or maybe you are reluctant to set any boundaries and need help asserting your authority with confidence.
Including anxiety, depression, social/peer challenges, significant behavioral or emotional dysregulation, or trauma.
I offer an approach to family therapy that acknowledges the entire family system as a whole being — one that must be supported in its entirety in order to treat whatever symptoms are being expressed. I help families come together to understand the root causes as well as the environmental obstacles that are at play, to reconnect, reestablish trust and safety, and to find ways to support one another through whatever challenges they may be facing.
Through this process, families are able to create a healing environment that supports mental wellbeing and family harmony.
Or perhaps are feeling overwhelmed, confused, guilty, or are struggling to connect with or bond with your child. Know that your feelings are valid. In this scenario, I can help through...
An environment for the two of you (through parent-infant dyadic work) to be together in a new way
Teaching you how to to observe your child and yourself without preconceived notions, expectations, or judgements
Quieting the noise of the shame/doubt/guilt/pressure/judgement, and finding ways to authentically connect with your baby.
Through this work, and through exploration of the parent’s own early attachment experiences, we can enhance the sense of attunement, connection, and trust that are the building blocks of secure attachment.
I am a student of parenting. I have studied relationships. I have studied secure and insecure attachment styles. I have studied child behavior and motivation. I have studied the nervous system and emotion regulation. I have studied effective communication and coping strategies. You are the expert on your child, on your family, on your values, on your goals. I am here to share information that is based on psychology, neurology, and human development.
To help you apply that information to your unique parenting goals for your unique family in a way that feels authentic to you and attuned to your child. I want to help you learn how to observe, how to let go of judgement, how to slow down, and how to connect. I believe you have the innate capacity to parent effectively and authentically. My job is to help you filter out the noise, tune in to that part of yourself, and truly trust it.