Attachment theory (not to be confused with attachment parenting) is a foundational concept in child development, describing the biological drive infants have to seek proximity to a caregiver as a means of survival and emotional safety. But how does this instinctive system function—and how can understanding it transform the way we parent?

In this episode, Dr. Sarah Bren unpacks the key elements of attachment theory, including the four behavioral systems children use to maintain attachment, the distinct patterns of attachment (secure, avoidant, ambivalent, and disorganized), and how early caregiver relationships shape a child’s developing brain and internal sense of self. With a focus on practical application, this episode offers a clear framework for fostering healthy, secure attachment relationships that support long-term emotional resilience and mental health.

Together we explore:

• Why attachment theory is essential for understanding how children form a sense of safety and identity
• The four core behavioral systems that shape attachment relationships
• How Mary Ainsworth’s research expanded Bowlby’s foundational theory
• The characteristics of secure, avoidant, ambivalent, and disorganized attachment styles
• The concept of a “secure base” and its role in child development
• What it means to internalize early relationships into our view of self and others
• How parents can support healthy attachment through trust, safety, comfort, and attunement
• The concept of the “good enough parent” and how misattunement fosters resilience
• Why perfection isn’t required—and can even be harmful—in secure attachment
• The long-term emotional, mental, and physical health benefits of secure attachment

About Dr. Sarah Bren:

Dr. Sarah Bren is a licensed clinical psychologist and mom of two, passionate about helping parents tune out the noise and tune into their own voice. Through her podcast, Securely Attached, she offers science-backed insights to support child development, secure attachment, and parent mental health.

Resources & Links:

• Learn more about attachment science and parenting at drsarahbren.com
• DM Dr. Sarah on Instagram @securelyattachedpodcast or @drsarahbren

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Referenced Works:

Winnicott, D.W. (Good Enough Parent theory)

Bowlby, J. (Attachment and Loss series)

Ainsworth, M. (Strange Situation study)